Is Polyamory Revolutionary?
The revolutionary breeze that ushered in the 60s carried with it a desire for sexual liberation and emancipation from the bourgeois, patriarchal norm. By calling into question the fundamental unit of society, the nuclear family, rebellious youth hoped to shake the foundations of staid consumerism.
The Sexual Freedom League, a student group at the University of California – Berkeley, organized nude parties and orgies. The Weather Underground tried to "smash monogamy" with bisexuality and rotating sexual partners. And in 1971 Andreas Baader, founder of the Red Army Faction, captured the sentiment of his generation, exclaiming: "The anti-imperialist struggle and sexual emancipation go hand-in-hand, fucking and shooting are the same thing!"
Now, four decades later, we can discern the faint stirrings of a return to the project of sexual liberation. This time, however, it is not under the flag of "free love" but of "polyamory" that the struggle will be waged.
Experiments in free love were not always a success and in retrospect some former participants now admit there was another form of coercion at work. Free love ceased being free and revolutionary the moment it became obligatory. In his 1971 dystopian sci-fi novel, The World Inside, Robert Silverberg conveys this point brilliantly.
Writing in the midst of the sexual revolution, Silverberg imagines a world where an exponentially growing human population lives in mile high sky scrapers. With limited space, their society adopts sexual norms that avoid tension: promiscuity is encouraged, and it is considered anti-social to turn down a sexual advance. Every night, men sleep with their neighbors wives and wives freely switch partners as well. The result is a world of greater apparent freedom – drugs are also legal – sustained by a severe form of social control: those who resist the free love culture disappear.
Sexual liberation as imagined in the 60s was heavily biased towards a vision where sexual energy was freely flowing, all partners essentially equal, and sex something that ought to be shared without restriction. Against this borderless, formless vision of sex another perspective is gaining traction: the "polyamorous" position that maintains it is the tight bounding of a group, whether it be three or four or more, that is revolutionary.
Polyamory is an outgrowth of the free love movement but instead of looking to the orgy as the model for rebellion it is the notion of a tribe that excites their imagination. There are many visions of polyamory, but the one that many find intriguing is a world where partners are not exchangeable, relationships are stable and promiscuity is often frowned on. Whether polyamory means two women and a man, two men and a woman or two couples who share the same bed, the nuclear, patriarchal family is no where to be found.
Can capitalism exist without its foundation of heterosexual monogamy? Is polyamory inherently revolutionary? To all these questions we must answer: capitalism is a master of recuperation. What first shakes it, soon motivates it, later strengthens it. We will never know which tactics bring it down until we try.
To rupture the consumer myth will take more than protests in the streets and boycotts of consumer goods. It'll require a fundamental shift in the structure of society, a revocation of our libidinal investment. Whether that'll take the form of polyamory or simply neighbors getting to know each other remains to be seen.
Micah White is a Contributing Editor at Adbusters and an independent activist. He lives in Berkeley and is writing a book about the future of activism. www.micahmwhite.com or micah (at) adbusters.org
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Anonymous
Humans are pretty behaviorally malleable, if you look at the global distribution of cultural practices. I just can't shake the feeling that this is all a distraction, though. Look what free love and drugs did for the Most Depressing Generation (the baby boomers). Those guys were kicking serious ass until they decided drugs and sex and basically any and every form of self-worship were more important than fighting. What do they have to show for all of their revolutionary actions? The Clean Air Act, Volvos and The Eagles.
OK, of course that's a simplification, but I think that the sort of self-worship that came about as a result of people 'freeing' themselves can only have contributed to the spectacular collapse of the youth movement. Dangerous stuff, I say let's keep partying to a minimum and focus on getting some things done.
Anonymous
Humans are pretty behaviorally malleable, if you look at the global distribution of cultural practices. I just can't shake the feeling that this is all a distraction, though. Look what free love and drugs did for the Most Depressing Generation (the baby boomers). Those guys were kicking serious ass until they decided drugs and sex and basically any and every form of self-worship were more important than fighting. What do they have to show for all of their revolutionary actions? The Clean Air Act, Volvos and The Eagles.
OK, of course that's a simplification, but I think that the sort of self-worship that came about as a result of people 'freeing' themselves can only have contributed to the spectacular collapse of the youth movement. Dangerous stuff, I say let's keep partying to a minimum and focus on getting some things done.
Anonymous
i just wished people just stop trying to self actualize themselves and realize we are all idiots embedded in ideology
Anonymous
i just wished people just stop trying to self actualize themselves and realize we are all idiots embedded in ideology
Harry P. Ness
Yes! Exactly! Please respect each other regardless of who you want to fuck or how much you want to fuck.
Everyone's situation is different and we'll never get anywhere if we attack each other based on generalized belief. It's all a matter of how and why you practice your belief.
If you practice your beliefs to hurt others, then they will be most likely to want to hurt you in return.
Harry P. Ness
Yes! Exactly! Please respect each other regardless of who you want to fuck or how much you want to fuck.
Everyone's situation is different and we'll never get anywhere if we attack each other based on generalized belief. It's all a matter of how and why you practice your belief.
If you practice your beliefs to hurt others, then they will be most likely to want to hurt you in return.
Anonymous
zizek said that one day like silverberg's movie you gonna have all the freedoms personal ones like being allowed to let your cat lick your vagina orgies and so on but none of the other fundamental human rights... if you can't dissent against the neo-liberal consensus freedom doesn't mean anything anymore.
Anonymous
zizek said that one day like silverberg's movie you gonna have all the freedoms personal ones like being allowed to let your cat lick your vagina orgies and so on but none of the other fundamental human rights... if you can't dissent against the neo-liberal consensus freedom doesn't mean anything anymore.
Anonymous
Polyamory? Fine. Don't think for one minute it wil be enough to 'bring down capitalism' though. That will only happen through societal collapse, which we will see as the oil runs out, the climate wreaks it's revenge and the economy stalls. If you want to help things along, try not consuming. Try bankruptcy. Try adbusting. Try living off-grid. Try spreading the word, so more people join in these actions.
Anonymous
Polyamory? Fine. Don't think for one minute it wil be enough to 'bring down capitalism' though. That will only happen through societal collapse, which we will see as the oil runs out, the climate wreaks it's revenge and the economy stalls. If you want to help things along, try not consuming. Try bankruptcy. Try adbusting. Try living off-grid. Try spreading the word, so more people join in these actions.
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